We Don't Know Each Other

Disclaimer: These statements are written in absolute to create clarity and awareness through sheer contrast. It does not mean they should be taken to such extremes as implied.

No one truly knows you.

You barely know yourself.

And you should treat yourself accordingly.

You must venture into yourself and explore all that you are capable of.

You must learn to be introspective and search within yourself.

Only then, when you are willing to find out who you are, will you be able to maximize your potential and grow into the person you could be.

That is why doubt is always wrong. Neither others nor yourself can adequately gauge your ability. So our psyche vastly underestimates to protect us, or we fall into extreme egotism until reality pops our bubble.

You cannot rely on your perception of yourself because you are a massively malleable creature, and who you are today under these circumstances could look vastly different tomorrow under different circumstances.

You cannot trust your conception of yourself and much less others’ conception of you.

People only know their idea of you, and they make comments and act in a way that is in accordance with that.

Their idea of you is a mere incomplete perception of who you are. And because of that, you cannot trust others to tell you who you are.

You are unique and should never allow others to judge you because your behavior is incongruent with their perception of you.

Do not fall into the trap of blindly following the identity laid out for you. You’ll become someone you are not, and that is nothing short of death.

The truth is that we all see through glasses darkly, and our perceptions should never be taken as inerrant.

So beware of your perceptions of other people.

You never truly know people, meaning that you have to continually make bets on how they will act.

Betting on their good side will many times hurt you, but at least it will reward you as well. Betting on their bad side has never produced anything besides net zero.

And sometimes, you have to decide whether you are playing a growth game or a zero-sum game.

Regardless of how long and how well you know a person (including yourself), you will never know what they are capable of, and that goes for both good and bad. You are always simply betting on what they are more likely to do, and that is as unpredictable as financial markets.

Have more respect for people, for you never know what they are capable of and who they will become.

Who they are now does not discount who they could be, and you should hope, pray, and believe for the better but never too blindly to ignore who they are now and which direction they are going.

You can either cut the relationship with that person by betting on their bad side, or you can bet on their improvement and hopefully level up your relationship. Either way, afterward, you will end up with a clearer version of who they are, and you can make adjustments there.

Betting on the improvement of a person is probably the most rewarding thing in the world. The ROI is virtually infinite.

But like any other investment, you should never put all your eggs in one basket. For man’s randomness knows no bounds, and a loyal man today steals tomorrow just to prove “that men still are men and not the keys of a piano”.

In his attempt to spite the universe and escape predictability man has made himself completely unknowable. But there is beauty in that.

Live in the freedom of the unknown. The unpredictable and the future you get to carve out. Search for what is inherent truth is to take everything else as theory and hold it loosely. Never let your perceptions of others sentence them, for it is incomplete, and your perception of yourself, being also incomplete, could possibly look a lot like that.

Do not let your perception of others cloud who they are, and don’t let others’ perceptions of you affect your own. Don’t listen to the naysayers, and pay no mind to those who judge you. Your intentions will go unnoticed in a world where consequences are what lasts, and that could go either way; it stands at the toss of the dice.

Break free from perceptions and live in the truths you have found while extending your search to the truth to be revealed.

This newsletter is filled with the principles, mindset, and philosophy that have helped me achieve success.

I hope that through sharing these I will be able to impart unto you the tools I have used to grow.

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